A MEN, I have a ex husband like that too. He even climbed 15 feet up on a stack of rubber maids to get to the top of a loft. He told everyone he has a disc injury in his back from working in the Military. He was doing this to hide things from me,because he had planned a premeditated divorce and he knew I was afraid of heights. He started to collect VA benefits in 2017 at a rating of 90% then came out of I and R and stationed in Bahrain as a contractor, then all of a sudden this back thing then PTSD. He was all about the money. Believe me, when we were going thru the divorce he was so angry that he had to share his pension. He only had $840,000 in his pension, poor baby. After 29 years of marriage raising 2 kids, we were both foster parents, taking care of his side of his family, investment property, and a home ect. He didn’t think I deserve a thing, because at that time I was not punching a time clock, but I work for the State taking care of 2, now young men, with a pay check and what ever I had left of foster care after paying there share of the bills. One who is our flush and blood I take care of, our son. But for years I worked 45-60 hours a week and still did these things until he went on 2 tours.
It all comes to a bucket list! The need to have money, so he can live the high standard of living he is a custom to. His family would slow him down to complete his bucket list and the freedom he has had living in PA while we lived in WIS. Not to say his brain washing he has had from the military and his friends of how to work the system, He tried to not have the military wordage put in our divorce, so he could find a loop hole to it to keep me from what he he was trying to cheat me out of. He says, you cheated me out of my house, my Edward Jones retirement, my property, my pension, my trailer and my children while they were growing up. NOT once do I ever hear OURS. Even after 29 years of marriage. He believes he paid for everything, which he didn’t and now he made a huge mistake and not to say had a affair before he asked for a divorce, my ex doesn’t have all the money he thought he was going to have after our divorce to live like a king. He was just lucky I didn’t throw his ass in jail or report him to his commanding officer. I was to afraid to. I wasn’t sure if I did this, I would not lose his pension. or anything I had coming to me.
To top this off I found out that my ex-husband apparently is collecting VA dependent benefits for our son who doesn’t live with him nor does he gives it to our son.
Our son has a disability and collects SSI and he does work for Walmart. I am so proud of him. But SSI was the one who told me about this and the $78.00 is considered taxable even tho it is VA money, our son is not a vet.
My ex’s ignores what I email him , send him and has blocked me from his phone. Just so he doesn’t have to take any responsibilities for what he has done to any of us. But like I said it’s about living the same life style and he has a entitlement problem. I love our military, I respect them, but it kills me to see when they take advantage of the tax payers and feel over entitled and think it’s ok.

Read post 55 and pay particular attention to post 57.

“Please quote where I or anyone else said only combat vets should receive any benefits.”

Didn’t say it outright, but it’s insinuated.

WOW……right here. This is a solution, a real solution. You should work for Washington, or the VA.

The VA doesn’t have time to investigate every single phone call….besides, they want solid proof…I turned in someone for fake PTSD also, and they said that a phone call wasn’t enough. They want PHOTOS AND VIDEOS. For example, if the fraudster claims that he can’t enjoy his social life anymore, and you see him out there partying, living it up….take photos and video! Also, send the proof in every single month. I believe there’s going to be a huge overhaul with fraud. And the VA does investigate PTSD claims, like once every 10-15 years. They did one last in 2005 I think, so their going to do another one soon. Only problem is with millions of vets, more and more vets clogging the system, the VA just doesn’t have time. That’s why you have to send in those PHOTOS and videos. So many fraudster vets have lost their money because they were out doing things they said they couldn’t, and someone recorded it and sent it in.

I have hunting buddies that climb mountains with heavy backpacks during deer season but after deer season they go home and grab their canes and walkers. Such low lives. You say something and they all come unglued on you and tell you how much of a scumbag your are.